ever notice how body weight is a matter of public domain?
a post over at Shapely Prose is what started me on this. go read the post if you can…really, it’s an excellent commentary, enriched by a great set of comments. they raise the interesting notion that while a lot of people refrain from making racist comments, it’s still pretty likely that folks will feel free to comment on your weight.
personally, my weight has gone down over the past several months; people have noticed, and several in my small workplace have made comments about it. these comments are generally delivered with enthusiasm, in a voice with elevated pitch. as a matter of fact, (and i am just realizing this) i have had more positive feedback over a longer period of time from my weightloss than i had when i graduated with my master’s degree last year.
what is it about a society where the closer you get to zero, the more valuable you are? how can we navigate a society where one is prized for the extent of diminishment they can achieve? it’s not about where you end up; it is the fact that encouragement flows when you move in one particular direction.
but it’s not just that. “fat phobia” or sizeism, is fed through this system. when society creates a value system, it doesn’t matter if that value makes sense; what seems to matter is the extent to which we fall in line and support it, the extent to which we are able to articulate and practice the party line.
sizeism reared its head in my office today. comments like “you’re just shrinking away!” and “you can never be too thin,” strike me as so incredibly ignorant and uninformed. in the blind rush to support the goal of diminishment, possibilities such as eating disorders, general medical conditions, or psych disorders fade. all that matters, is thinness. another co-worker referred to a client as “the slightly less rotund one,” a reference to the perception that the population of women we serve at our agency are all overweight. the person speaking this comment, then, effectively grants themselves the ability to exercise prejudice. the “but don’t you know it’s unhealthy!” defense is always present; somehow, the idea is that fat people are brining this shame upon themselves, and it’s the unbounded job and burden of the skinny folk to enlighten them as to the error of their ways.
what would happen if we as a society didn’t need to slate somebody into underdog status? what would happen if there weren’t teh blacks, teh gays, or teh muslims or teh communists or whomever is de rigeur to pathologize. would we survive? or would we actually have to look at our own issues?
can we function as a society without a scapegoat? after all, Fat People (c) are successfully blamed for raising health care costs, raising fat children, and generally contributing to the downfall of our nation.
you know how a wartime president is always re-elected? in large part, that’s because war (the active hatred of others) is a force that unifies people. sure, it also has protesters and people who want things to go differently, but for the majority it is a force that brings people together to fight a common enemy. my question is, who are we as a society in the absence of someone to hate? would we even recognize ourselves?
wait ’till the end…it’s the end that gets you. i remember the first time i listened to james blunt, it was “goodbye my lover” and it was right after i had been dumped. he has an uncanny knack of saying what needs to be said.
Pharmacies and pharmacists with religious or moral objections to “Plan B” emergency contraception may continue to refuse to dispense it until a lawsuit is settled, a federal judge ruled Friday.
The state had asked Judge Ronald Leighton of the U.S. District Court to reinstate rules requiring pharmacists and pharmacies to dispense all legal medications, pending outcome of an appeal. Last year, Leighton suspended the rules as they pertain to Plan B, the so-called “morning-after pill,” by granting an injunction.
Under the rules, pharmacies must stock and dispense legal medications; individual pharmacists may refuse, but only if someone else is available to provide the medication.
The defendants, including the state Department of Health and the Board of Pharmacy, asked the judge to stay the injunction and the case itself while the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals hears an appeal. The judge’s ruling means state rules are still suspended, and the case in Tacoma — scheduled to go to trial in October — will continue. Defendants must file their appeal by Feb. 29.
In Friday’s motion, the defendants argued that Washington residents have a legal right to obtain Plan B from pharmacies, and that the injunction “broadly infringes on that right, placing the public at greater risk of denial of access to care.”
and this gem:
The lawsuit was filed by two pharmacists and a pharmacy owner who contend their “rights of conscience” were violated by the state rules. The plaintiffs say their religious beliefs prevent them from providing the emergency contraception, which they say can cause an abortion — a claim the other side disputes.
this kind of shit has been going on since the minute the pharmacist’s prescriptive authority was granted in our state. but i have yet to see an area where “conscience” is ever applied against anyone with a penis.
so here in washington state, our presidential primary is tomorrow, february 19. now, a while back our state decided, for reasons that were never satisfactory to yours truly, to require voters to declare their party on the ballot, and only vote within the lines of that declared party.
now personally, the likelihood of my voting republican is slim; however, i rather liked my right to do so if i wanted, without having that affect who else i am allowed to vote for. in certain cases, one may want to choose a city councilperson of a different political stripe than one wants for governor or president; that should be the voter’s right to choose. however, it ain’t anymore.
the local paper has run a string of articles recently in a run-up to our election tomorrow. in this one, the author surveys a few members of our rather large eastern european immigrant population:
One such person is 27-year-old Lynnwood resident Julia Gendelberg, who moved to the United States with her parents in 1992.
Gendelberg said she thinks her vote could make a difference. “I always vote, it’s nice to be able to participate. Although I was very young when I left Moscow, I was still old enough to understand that common people weren’t really allowed to participate. We watched from the sidelines,” she said.
Gendelberg said she remembers her parents and grandparents going to vote … or rather cast a symbolic ballot with only one name on it.
“My parents developed a distrust for politics. It’s just that I came here so young, I don’t have the same reaction. Our past always weighs on us, but I’ve lived more of my life in America and my past is here,” she said.
it is a pretty poignant picture; the individuals who have moved here through struggles & hardship and are able to vote in a way that is supposed to be more than just symbolic. but…back to our main point. are they getting counted? i mean, come on; we’ve lived through florida, hanging chads, electronic voting fraud, and having the supreme court decide our vote for us. what have we learned?
not so much: in snohomish county alone, five days before the election, over 17,000 ballots have already been discarded that’s right, almost twenty percent of all ballots received by that point (absentee ballots returned early) are not going to be counted:
Nearly one in five ballots cast so far in the presidential primary in Snohomish County won’t be opened or counted because the voter failed to identify whether they’re a Republican or Democrat, election officials said Wednesday.
About 17,000 of the 92,516 ballots received are being set aside because voters forgot or declined to check the box next to a party oath on the ballot envelope.
Election officials expected some voters to skip the oath, in part because it becomes public information that is shared with the parties and anyone who asks the county, Snohomish County elections manager Garth Fell said.
Even so, the numbers are a higher than expected, he said.
“There’s a group of voters out there who are frustrated with this process,” Fell said. “Certainly, some statements are being made in the way people are voting. Some simply missed that part of the instructions.”
It’s a perennial problem in Washington. Voters with independent streaks are loathe to identify their political stripes after decades of being able to vote whichever party they choose in what was called a blanket primary.
those mischief makers! why can’t they follow directions?:
“It’s sad that these people won’t have their votes counted, but they’re not following the process and they didn’t declare a party,” Snohomish County Democratic party chairman Mark Hintz said.
Nobody can know the intention of the voters who didn’t sign the party oath. If they were making mischief with the opposing party, their vote definitely shouldn’t count, he said.
“If people aren’t going to take the party oath, then how do we know who’s voting?” he said. “I find it despicable whenever we throw out a vote, but I also want them to be accurate and true votes.”
If the state had party registration rules, this would never happen, he said.
The county sent out informational mailings to emphasize the special partisan rules for this election, Fell said. Once the county receives the ballot, it’s too late for a voter to come in to check the party box.
there just aren’t words for this. as someone who has been active in elections since before i could vote in them, you can be sure i’ll get my ballot in “correctly.” whether it will be counted, though, is a completely different subject.
coming off a school weekend, back in town and back in the grind.
oh, baby; i loves me some moby. the video is kind of wtf, though.
i went to the movie The Bucket List yesterday. while it was kind of slow to start, with a storyline that kind of meandered along, the sentiment is certainly strong. the movie centers around two terminally-ill older gents who make a list of things to do before they kick the bucket–the bucket list.
it’s a simple concept, and not a new one. a few years ago, a book came out entitled 1,000 Places To See Before You Die. it’s a perspective check, in a way–a method to help keep grounded into a place of thought-about goals instead of getting perpetually ground down into the minutiae .
The Seattle Times has an article on the subject. the article interviews several people about their own bucket lists. one person had this to say:
“It’s like the phenomenon of buying a red car — all of a sudden you see red cars all around,” he says. “When you take the opportunity to write down your goals, there’s a heightened awareness. It’s not that there’s more red cars; you just see things a little differently.”
put that way, it almost sounds like something from
the secret, a book/movie empire that has circulated for a few years that highlights the ‘law of attraction,’ a notion that states that we attract into our lives the things we give the most energy to through thought and deed.
while not exactly a fan of ‘the secret,’ it does a good job of helping people refocus; just what the bucket list does. it is a psychological placeholder, as it were, that creates space for a dimension outside the here and now, a place for goals and wishes and dreams. it helps get us out of the daily grind and into a realm of possibility. so while it’s no great homage to scriptwriting or cinematography, it is worth seeing nonetheless.
so, what’s on your bucket list?